Why do some feel the need to be so hurtful in this community (pregnancy/parenting)?

luvmyfam asked:


I asked a question earlier today about a simple behavior my daughter was having while feeding. I received an appauling answer by another apparent mother.

What do people get out of crappy answers? Attention?

Tags: ,

16 Responses to “Why do some feel the need to be so hurtful in this community (pregnancy/parenting)?”

  1. M Kerr RN L&D says:

    After attention…bordeom…immaturity…name it?

  2. Under the Sea says:

    yes I have noticed that too. I think a lot of the mothers tend to be judgmental rather than answering the question asked. I’m sorry you’ve gone through that.

    You wouldnt believe how many times I’ve been crucified on here for saying that I’m not going to breastfeed…

  3. mommy of two says:

    points…

  4. Butterfly_Nirvana says:

    Because they think they are funny. Don’t worry though! You can also report it!

  5. Aiden's Mommy!! 6~27~08! says:

    I think its mainly because they get their 2 points whether their answer is helpful or not. Unless it’s reported. And for some people, they enjoy being smartasses much more than being helpful

  6. kimiyasmommy says:

    It probably just makes them feel better. It is very easy to sound mean & tough on the internet.
    I get alot of that on Ebay too..

  7. Austins mommy says:

    There are some nasty people out there. Even some who post of the “not sure if its real” post. It could be real in all cases and should be treated as that..Even if its sick or weird, it should be said that the need help and should seek a doctor instead of poking fun…what if its real! :) Im sorry you got nasty answers..some people have no hearts.

    take care!

  8. sweetienat123 says:

    They get to pass their own negativity onto others, which is unfair, but happens anyway. Just ignore it and stay positive.

    Take care!

  9. stargazer says:

    I guess they feel since they dont know you they can just be mean, and get there frustrations out on strangers just ignore em, there are way more nice people here anyway EXCEPT IN RELIGION AND SPRITUALITY there all mean

  10. nelly5nell says:

    i asked a question too and this guy told me i needed to learn how to spell and use complete sentences. I did i just didnt capiatlize. they have nothing else better to do

  11. Ashley says:

    yeah i dont know?? people have nothing better to do with their time, and if it makes them feel better, then so be it, i guess. i try not to let them get to me.

  12. LovingLife says:

    People are judgmental, know it alls, holier than thou? Anything is possible - cyber space is full of opinionated folks. Sometimes people don’t even realize that their tone is perceived as rude.

  13. His Babyd♄ll says:

    Unfortunately it is the way of the internet :( People just aren’t as helpful as you think they are. And worst is that they get nasty about it. I apologize that you had to go through that.

  14. Daniella says:

    Yes. I only hand out appauling answers to people that display a lack of empathy or intelligence.

  15. barbi&button says:

    bc they are just plain mean…. i ask questions all the time and they give me some really mean answers too. and have you noticed that when you give a really good helpful answer you get lots of thumbs down? some people are just mean…. oh well. let them play i say… it doesn’t affect my day. good luck with your daughter!

  16. *~*All my luv*~* says:

    some people, regardless if they are actual parents or not, just seem to have that kind of attitude. Possibly they were just having a bad moment or they are generally b****es!
    Do your best to raise yourself above their childish antics and look for the support of the mothers that actually give meaningful advice.

Leave a Reply